Heather's MumEnter Mourning: A memoir on death, dementia and coming home

By Heather Menzies

Table of Contents

Preface (read an excerpt)

Introduction (read an excerpt)

1. The Ground begins to Shift (read an excerpt)

2. The Diagnosis (read an excerpt)

3. The Clearance (read an excerpt)

4. Learning to Talk All Over Again (read an excerpt)

5. Medical Power of Attorney (read an excerpt)

6. Beginning to Fail (read an excerpt)

7. The Fall (read an excerpt)

8. Next: Finding A Nursing Home (read an excerpt)

9. Safe Passage (read an excerpt)

Epilogue (read an excerpt)


Recommended Reading

Book Reviews

Globe and Mail

Toronto Star

Ottawa Citizen

Vancouver Sun


People's Daily (China)

Reader Responses

“The entire audience at the Alzheimer Society of Ottawa and Renfrew County’s seminar “STOP The Rising Tide of Dementia” listened intently to Heather Menzies as she spoke about the social impact of dementia. The power of her presentation was drawn from her own personal perspective as a daughter whose mother had Alzheimer’s disease. She was brave in sharing the feelings of denial, resentment, and guilt that she had as barriers to action before facing the reality of what was happening to her mother so she could really be there for her mother. Heather was inspirational in encouraging families and those who work in dementia care to take action now in order to slow down and stop the crippling effect of Alzheimer’s disease on families. Boomer-aged children, the bulk of the caregivers already providing care to aging parents with Alzheimer’s disease, looks to be the ones to provide even more of the care as the demand for publicly funded services far outstrips the supply.”
- Kathy Wright, Executive Director, Alzheimer Society of Ottawa and Renfrew County

"You've writen a wonderful, generous book that dares to be intimate and broad all at the same time."
- Penny Cabrain, CBC Radio Producer

"I must tell you how moved I was by your absolutely magnificent book: "Enter Mourning". I re-lived the are though different, and longer), the struggle, the difficulties, of watching my mother's health slowly erode way from Parkinson's.. Your descriptions were heart-rending, honest, beautifully-expressed. I also very much "enjoyed" the inter-relationship with your siblings. (I have 4 brothers)... I will buy this book for a friend, and keep it as a very special read.."
- Antoinette Taddeo, Montreal, Quebec

"I recently heard that "we read to know we are not alone" and that's a bit how I felt when I read your book."
- Marie Lizotte, Ottawa, Ontario

"I have just closed the back cover and I feel a deep pull to reach out to you tonight...Until I read your book, I didn't know someone could understand all the feelings I felt, the experiences I had and the depth of the connection I had with my Mom while she went from living to dying."
- Pierrette Raymond, Ottawa, Ontario

"Thank you for the book! It was/is wonderful and loving and very brave and so important."
- Suzan Bazilli, Victoria, B.C.

"I had ment to write you much earlier to say how I enjoyed your beautiful book about your journey through the effects of Alzheimer's with your mother."
- Barbara Rossall-Wynne, Australia

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